Ending your marriage can be an emotional experience whether you do so with the help of a mediator or a California judge. If you’re like most people, you don’t want others to see you at your weakest point. You also want to make sure that your children are shielded from the negative aspects of a divorce. Take a look at what you can do to protect your privacy while attempting to dissolve your marriage.
Refrain from discussing the case on social media
The easiest way to keep your divorce private is to refrain from posting about it on public online forums. Even if you aren’t following your spouse, it’s possible that he or she may still be keeping track of your posts. Furthermore, your friends, family members and others may share any posts that they are able to see. Therefore, they could relay any negative or inflammatory messages that are posted online to your spouse or to your children.
See if mediation is preferable to litigation
Whatever happens during mediation will stay between you, your spouse and the mediator. Conversely, anything that happens in a courtroom is generally a matter of public record unless you are able to get the case sealed. Mediation may also be preferable to litigation because you have more control over how your divorce settlement is structured.
Try to make the proceedings as boring as possible
People are naturally attracted to drama. Therefore, you should try to make your divorce proceedings as boring as possible. This means that you should refrain from telling your friends or family anything that could be construed as juicy gossip that others would want to learn more about.
A divorce will likely have a long-term impact on your financial and mental health. It may also have an impact on your children, friends and others who know you if you make a public spectacle of your current situation. Therefore, it may be in your best interest to keep the end of your marriage out of the spotlight.